I’ve got a dinner invitation that I’m not sure I can refuse… it’s a family thing, and everyone thinks they are being kind to me – so I don’t have to cook. It’s hard to tell family that eating out with IBS and food intolerances is a LOT of work.
However, I am determined to rejoin the greater world, despite having IBS, AND, I’m feeling much more confident after our road trip experience this summer. So I’m going to do my best to make this dinner out work for me.
My first step is to go online and check out the websites of a few restaurants. I went with larger chain restaurants, because they seem to be much more aware of food allergies, and will sometimes be so organized they provide nutrition and ingredient listings online. I checked out three: Joey’s, Moxie’s, and Earl’s.
I discovered that Earl’s didn’t seem to have a printable allergy/nutrition listing online (that I could find). Moxie’s has a guide available and it very clearly lists out many of the common allergen ingredients in their food (including the common FODMAP foods). Almost everything on the menu has either dairy, gluten, onions and garlic, though. Joey’s didn’t have any of this information on line, but they did have the option of emailing the restaurant with a special request.
I have decided to go with Moxie’s because their on-line information is the most comprehensive (although, you do have to do some digging). Their website shows the phone number of each restaurant, so my second step is to call them. I managed to get the manager and he was terrific to chat with. He assured me that they take food allergies special requests very seriously, and I found this to be comforting.
We’ve booked the restaurant, and now I just need to make sure I eat gently in the days leading up to the outing. I want my stomach to be calm, and I want my nerves to be collected when we walk into that restaurant! I think I’ve messed myself up in the past by letting my anxiety get to me, so I’ll work to trust in my plan. (step 3!).
My fourth and final step for preparation will be to print off my chef’s card to bring along with me. I’ll make sure to speak up confidently (but cheerfully!) to our waiter and ask for their help.
I’ll prepare The Husband by letting him know that he might be on tasting duty if I have any suspicions about what gets served to me. I will also repeat my usual 30-minute wait request: I like to sit about 30 minutes after a meal (that I haven’t prepared myself) to see if I have an immediate reaction. My reaction to dairy is this fast, and I don’t want to be I the car when a case of diarrhea hits.
As for the egg and other FODMAP unfriendly ingredients, I’ll just have to wit to the following day to see if I had success in eating out with IBS at this particular restaurant. Wish me luck!